But when it comes from the gay community, it’s worse—because they should understand,” says Ingram, who now lives in Bensalem.“This is the experience of the gay community—having the straight community tell them they’re wrong, they don’t exist. I feel like ‘I was there with you, in the beginning,’ and then I hear ‘What has bisexuality done for the movement? The history has been rewritten.” Ingram met her husband of three years, James Klawitter, at a meeting of Bi Unity, a Philly-based bisexual support network.To clear up the myths, here’s what actually true and what’s certainly not – the “facts.” Bisexual people, especially bisexual women, are often sexualized: We’re good for a romp in the sack, the logic goes, but not good enough to take home to the parents.The sexualization stems from visualizing bisexuality not as a sexual identity on par with heterosexuality or homosexuality, but as a sex act.(Well, that and “I’m still living in my parent’s basement.”) That fear often stems from a misunderstanding of what it means to be bisexual.As Ellyn Ruthstrom, president of the Bisexual Resource Center, told the – who have a hard time wrapping their minds around dating non-monosexuals are likely falling prey to such negative misperceptions.But bisexuality is a legitimate sexual identity, and being bisexual doesn’t mean that person is incapable of being in a committed relationship.There may be other things about your bi partner that may make them undateable. Being attracted to multiple genders allows bisexuals to be attracted to individuals for far more than just their physical appearance.
As soon as you start throwing up so many walls, you cannot see over them yourself, so you just start isolating in a way that's not honest." In the same interview with in 2016, the actress opened up and said that when she was dating men, she never talked about her relationships to anyone.
Sure, there are dating sites specifically designed for bisexual women, but they do not have the reach or the users of other, more well-known sites, and frankly, they tend to alienate gay women and straight men.
Because, like many other bi girls, I am attracted to gay women and straight men, I want that exposure.
But few things rock potential relationships more than one partner feeling insecure – and dating someone sexually fluid can feel threatening to even the most secure individuals.
Which is why there’s arguably nothing that scares a date off more than announcing you’re bisexual.