But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.On the positive side, the age 50-plus daters seem to be pretty darn smart when choosing a date-mate.It’s a well known fact that every single woman drops at least 10 pounds the minute she becomes recently separated. She gets upset and is unable to eat frequently, she’s stressed about the unknown, the attorney fees, and how her kids are doing. Most people would say they feel confident, sexy, that they love the feeling of their clothes practically falling off of them. ’ I looked in the mirror one day and I felt really, really old and tired. I didn’t feel like I was attractive on the inside or outside. I was a stay at home mom: I hadn’t had a job in 6 years.She’s busy, or she might have just started working again. And lastly, the recently separated woman is dating again. Most would say they see themselves as being more attractive, right? But, let me take you into the mind of the recently separated 40 something woman. I had zero self esteem when it came to my professional ability, and figured the only skills I had now were diaper changing, bottle feeding and house cleaning.Maybe you’re divorced and frustrated with dating or haven’t ventured back out to the dating pool.You could be a widow and unsure of ever finding another man like your husband.Women over 40 are more likely to be established, have homes, established friends, and secure jobs.
Cougars are also more likely to be looking to date a lot and have fun; opposed to sifting through the options looking for the perfect mate.Clients come to me with these limiting ideas about dating, love and men, and it’s my job to help them turn things around.Working with me, women transform the lies to create opportunities. I hope reviewing these lies opened your mind to new ways of looking at dating over 40.Still, people fall in love every day and many of my clients do find that loving man. This might seem harsh, but you are likely telling yourself several lies about love after 40 that are hurting you.These negative beliefs prevent you from connecting, or worse, stop you from even looking. More than 30 percent don’t even know where to begin and nearly 30 percent say they find it too stressful (think back to those sweaty palms and awkward conversations.) For more than 40 percent of respondents, other priorities are simply more important, and nearly one-quarter say it’s just too difficult to date when you’re 50-plus.